It's not uncommon for children to feel jealous of their siblings. Your kids might love each other but at some point in time, they may feel that another sibling is getting more attention or affection from parents. It could be very much destructive at times. It could lead to hatred, unhealthy competition, and envy. It most commonly happens when a mother delivers a newborn and an older sibling gets ignored by the mother. The older sibling may show it in many ways like be teasing, pushing, snatching the baby items, and even hitting the baby. The older child may resort to misbehaving or regressing. Regressive acts include jumping on the sofa when you are trying to nurse a baby, refusing to use the potty after they have been using it for months. Here are some ways to handle sibling rivalry:
Prevention of sibling rivalry:
During pregnancy :- Talk to your child that he will get a new sibling soon wh will give him company, will play with him, he will not feel lonely.
- Involve the child in reading newborn baby-related books.
- If he is old enough, take admission in a playgroup or nursery.
- Try to teach him to do things of daily living independently and praise him for doing things independently.
- Don't expect any new skill from them like toilet training, you can postpone it further.
When you are in hospital for delivery:
- Always keep in contact with your child through audio or video call.
- Let your child visit you in hospital.
- Ensure that someone near and dear is taking care of the child.
After coming home:
- Involve the child in homecoming
- When you return home, try to be with her for the first few minutes, cuddle his, ask about things he has done when you were not at home.
- Give him a gift from new baby to develop rapport
- Ask other family members to give attention to him.
The first month at home:
- Whenever you get time, give him extra physical affection.
- Don't exclude him from your world completely. Give him attention and make him feel like an important person in the family.
- Encourage him to play and fondle with the new baby. Allow him to touch, hold the baby under your surveillance.
- Involve him in arranging room for baby, making the sleeping bed for baby, finding diaper and clothes for baby, finding toys.
- Make comments such as "look how happy she gets when you play and fondle the baby" and "the baby is happy because of you"
- Don't ask the older child to be quiet cause the baby may wake up. Newborns can sleep even in a noisy environment.
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